This is what I found after being an ethnomethodologist one week
This week, I tried to explore the norms that people exist in their daily communication, and I found not as much as I thought. But these processes are very interesting, in my opinion.
But I have to say that a lot of times, I can't realize that these norms exist, or rather, I don't think I should break these norms. That said, from some perspectives. I identify with these norms.
For example, a lot of the interaction with pedestrians when we are on the road, whether it is when we are driving, and interaction with other drivers, is a kind of norms. When we reach out, it means getting the driver to stop, and when we are waving as a driver, it means we're letting pedestrians come over. These actions are not clearly defined, but we have been consciously obeying. But the interesting thing is that I've found that in the United States, honking only exists in very special cases, and in China, honking is a relatively common way for drivers to communicate, including bicycles. When I first rode a bicycle in the United States, I would often ring the bell to remind pedestrians and vehicles to avoid. Later, when I saw through people's strange eyes, the meaning of the whistle had a great negative impact. People would look back at me with strange eyes.
And when we're done shopping and checking out or communicating with others, we say "have a nice day," a habit I don't have in China, and generally, it's the customer who says thank you and the cashier who says "you're welcome." When I first came over, I didn't know how to respond, "unuh" was the only word I could think of, and once I blurted out a Chinese in response because I was talking to a friend with a Chinese, and I could clearly see his puzzled expression.
I have to admit that in life, I rarely try to break them, on the other hand, I think that we are accustomed to these things, when others do not do such behavior, the first reaction will be doubts and puzzlements, and then will respond according to the size of the aggression, or angry, or do not care, or laugh away.
But when we find out that some people are trying to break these norms, these behaviors are very obvious.
